28 Things I’ve learned In 28 years
28 Things I’ve learned In 28 years
Today I’m turning 28 years old and decided to share with you 28 things that I’ve learned through the years. I know that this post is a bit different from the norm, but I decided that it might be good to share a few things I’ve learned through the years. Hope you enjoy this post.
1. Complaining drains you of energy and solves nothing:
Life sometimes is not fair. People at times are unkind and things go wrong. Sometimes there is nothing that you can do other than suck it up. Complaining won’t solve any of those issues, complaining will drain you and put you in a spiral of negativity. If you must be angry, be angry, but allow time to calm down and analyse the situation that you are in. Can you do anything to solve it? If not, then let it go.
2. You don’t have to feel stuck. If you want to go, go:
Sometimes all you want to do is run away. You feel stuck. Know that you don’t have to feel like that because nothing in life is permanent. If you don’t have enough money, start saving, make a plan and allow yourself some time to make that plan viable. Moving away is far from an easy thing to do, but it might be the best thing you can be.
3. Cooking is probably the best skill you can invest time in:
You don’t need to become a skilled master chef, but learning how to cook different dishes can be an invaluable skill to have. Not only will you save a ton of money, you will also become healthier because you know exactly what you are putting into your body. You might also impress your better half with an excellent meal cooked especially just for her/him.
4. Exercising will be the best way you can spend your free time:
By keeping a regular exercise schedule not only will you feel much better about yourself, you will also become more confident and you will have more energy. Exercising regularly also boosts your mental health and it improves your creativity.
5. You don’t have to do what everyone is doing:
Don’t succumb to peer pressure. Just because your friends are getting a mortgage, marrying and popping babies left and right doesn’t mean that you should also be doing the same. Do what makes you happy and follow your own path, in the end, that’s what really matters.
6. Try a lot of things until you find your passion:
When we work on something that we love, time seems to stop. You find new sources of energy and every barrier that you might find on your path will be easier to overcome. If your eyes shine when you are talking about something and if you can’t think about anything other than this thing then you know you found your passion.
7. Learn how to manage your time better:
Time is a limited resource and we all have 24 hours in a day. Then why is it that some people seem to be doing a bazillion things on a day when others seem to be doing 3? These people are just better managers than others. You have time to do everything, you just need to learn how to manage that time better.
8. Remember to take breaks from your chaotic life and spend days doing nothing at all:
If you have just one or two days off it might be normal that you want to use that time on the things that give you pleasure – hobbies, friends, family. Don’t forget to have some real time off to avoid burnout, spend a day without any plans and just chilling. I can guarantee that you will feel more energised afterwards.
9. Travelling is the best way to spend your money on:
When you travel you see something new for the first time. You are mindful of the world around and you are enjoying a whole new experience. You will cherish those memories from your travels and you won’t regret spending that money. On the other hand, if you buy a new phone, you might be happy for a while and then that feeling fades away.
10. The second best thing to spend your money on are books:
A book is the product of hours and hours of hard work and creativity being dumped on a blank page. When you open a book and read it, you are magically transported to whole new worlds and your brain creates mental pictures of what that world looks like.
11. Never stop learning:
The world is an ever-changing place. If you don’t learn new things and get up to date with new trends you will soon get out of date and get stuck in the past. It means that it will be harder for you to get new jobs or even understand the world around you.
12. Try to be a better person than you were yesterday:
We are all on this earth for a reason – to become a better person. Think about what you did yesterday, what did you do right? Did you do anything wrong? Don’t judge yourself, but analyse your behaviour and think how could you improve and become a better person.
13. See the good and the positive in the world:
When I was younger I was a pessimist person. All I could see was the bad in every situation – the glass was always half empty. I was often sad and upset with the world around me, then one day I was tired of feeling like that. I decided to change my mindset to a more positive one. It took some years to change but now I’m a more positive and happier person.
14. Forgive and forget those who did you wrong:
When you do this you are eliminating bad emotions from your life. You will also become a stronger person and it will be harder to get under your skin. Initially, forgiving can be hard, but as time passes it gets easier with each attempt. When you do it on a regular basis, you will feel much happier.
15. Set up your goals:
Where are you going? What do you want to do? Where do you see yourself in 2, 5,10 years? If you can’t answer these simple questions it will be harder to follow your dreams because you are roaming aimlessly. When you establish your goals, it becomes much easier to know what you need to do to meet those goals
16. Sell your TV. Seriously, you don’t need it!
It has been 3 years since I watched TV on a regular basis. Now the days seem to have more hours than before, I have more free time and it becomes easier to work on the things that I truly love. Last year I’ve read more books than the last 2 years of university. I still watch Netflix or YouTube occasionally, but most times I’m doing something else.
17. Surround yourself with people that add value to your life and cut off people who don’t:
Look at the people around you, do they have the same values as you? Do they have similar goals? Do they offer support and help you to overcome difficulties so you can reach your goals? If you answer no, then it’s time to cut those people off your life. Surround yourself with people that help you achieve your goal and you will grow immensely.
18. Don’t stop dreaming, no matter what!
Dream as much and as high as possible – don’t put any limits. If you think that everything is possible and that you can achieve all your dreams, your way of being in life will change. You will have a more positive attitude and there will be no limits on the things that you can do.
Dream as if your life depends upon it.
— Fabio Rosado (@TravelsAndGazes) June 18, 2016
19. Donate all those things that you don’t use:
Let’s be honest, we tend to be sort of hoarders. We keep things around because we might need them in the future. Chances are, you won’t. Declutter your home and enjoy the freedom of minimalism.
20. Don’t leave things for tomorrow, live as if tomorrow won’t come:
Imagine the worst day at work. You got upset, humiliated, stressed and overworked. This has been one of the worst days you have ever had. Then your phone rings and someone tells you that your father has cancer and has just a few days to live. After a month battling the disease he lost the battle.
Going through this bad experience made me see life with a different set of eyes. Tomorrow might never come, so if you want to do something, just do it. Don’t be afraid and throw yourself out there, it’s better to try and fail than never try at all.
21. It’s okay to fail and get things wrong:
Every once in a while you will do something wrong or you will fail. Failing is part of the learning process, so don’t beat yourself because of it. Learn from that experience instead of being upset; analyse what went wrong and what you should have done to get a different outcome, then try again.
22. You can’t please everyone, so stop trying:
Unfortunately, there will be people who won’t like you – the reason? Just because.
Accept that you can’t please everyone. If you are already trying to become a better person and treat everyone kindly and in a fair way, but they still don’t like you apply the lesson of “forgive and forget.” Be free of negativity and become a much happier person
23. You are much stronger than you think:
In university I was unable to wake up earlier than 10-11 am. I also thought that I wouldn’t be able to have a job that brings no pleasure and doesn’t fulfill me. When I decided to come to the Uk my first job was a bad one (pot wash) and I did it because I was eager to be successful even if that meant having a job that wasn’t as good. You are an amazing creature and you can adapt easily to new environments and beat new challenges.
24. Do at least one daunting thing in your life:
Be brave; do something scary. This might be the most stressful moment that you have been through, but you will also learn very valuable lessons and you will be able to know yourself a bit better. Who knows, maybe that daunting thing will be one of the best experiences that you go through in life.
25. Learn how to be alone with yourself:
Be comfortable with yourself, enjoy spending time on your own and you will become a more independent person. You will stop relying on others and it will be easier to accept who you are. You are responsible for your own happiness and only you can change your current situation.
26. Start using the words “Please”, “Thank you” and “help”:
These are possibly the hardest words to use with people around us. You don’t need to be alone, ask for help when the load is too heavy for you. Say thank you on regular basis to show that you truly appreciate what others do for you – even if they know, saying kind words can change their life.
27. Love your family and demonstrate it every day:
Your parents or the ones that raise you will be the ones that will truly love you no matter what. Sometimes we take them for granted and think that they will always be around us. But that doesn’t happen. Show and say that you love every single member of your family on a daily basis – spread love and you will turn everyone’s day brighter.
28. Smile. Every single minute of your life, just smile:
It’s hard to be annoyed with someone who is always smiling. You are a miracle of life and every day you have things to be grateful for. Start seeing the good in life and with your smile you might be a ray of sun in someone’s dark day. Never underestimate the power of a smile.